Monday, June 1, 2009

Puzzle Pieces

Love me for who I'll be 
This life is just a dream

"Sometimes I feel like a being from somewhere distant, sent here to observe these social creatures known as humans."

Altho I am no alien, there have been times that I can't help but "analyze" people and feel separated. The following is a thought that has been running through my head the last couple of months.



What causes attraction in us to certain people (Friendship or Relationship) that makes it so hard for us to "let go" of certain individuals, wether the prior relationship was a healthy one or a destructive one. And also do we actually like the people we are attracted to? Or are we attracted to something in them that reminds us of a past friend, family member or lover?(Keep in mind I am completely ignoring physical and biological attractions and focusing on the psychological aspect of our minds. Beauty's only skin deep right?)

The way I see it, we all start out as big blocks of stone. Small children see the world completely different than adults, it's a world where mom can make scrapes go away with a kiss and dad can make the monsters go away just by checking under the bed. Most children can't even grasp the concept of hate. And yet over the years we have pieces of our selves gradually chipped away, sometimes big chunks but most of the time just small pieces. The once towering solid masses we started out as, slowly shrivel to deformed, sad and lonely standing formations.

It is at these formations that a weird beautiful event takes place. Imagine these jagged stones as puzzle pieces. Millions of them scattered throughout the world. Each piece can "somewhat" fit with one another, or perhaps as a group. 

The turbulent events that chipped away at us during the course of our lives have in fact shaped our character and the people that we are. Some of us faced parental problems, others abuse or negligence. And yet there are others of us who face unspeakable atrocities.

This "gathering" of pieces, so to say is one that is remarkable and yet at the same time a horrible tragedy. There are those that faced events so horrible that it had been ingrained into their psyche. It is situations like these were pieces that should not go together, do. One person who is so used to drama and chaos in their lives, won't be able to function properly without it. They'll feel like something is missing unless they get it back. It is these people that need to make the effort to recognize this problem and try to rectify it.

But the union of "perfect" matches is rare and I have only seen it in a handful of people here. The best example is my friend's parent's, two people so giving and willing to help out anyone that needs a hand. I feel they represent what a "perfect" match of two puzzle pieces would be.

So what conclusion did I come to?
People are fragile creatures that need one another to live through life, there are those that claim independence from love and human emotions... They lie.
As do I.
For I am just a man.